How To Choose A More Helpful Thought
Some if you may have heard of CBT, or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. Some of you may not have. I’m going to tell you what it is, some of the benefits, along with a really simple way to use CBT in your day-to-day life.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is a form of talking therapy that focuses on how your attitude, thoughts and beliefs can affect the way you feel and behave. CBT uses cognitive therapy and behaviour therapy, whilst teaching you coping mechanisms for dealing with your problems. Cognitive therapy examines what you think about, and behaviour therapy examines the things you do and the way you behave.
How many of these Thought Traps are you falling into every day?
ANTs & Thought Traps
When we are feeling low or anxious, it is common to have automatic negative thoughts (ANTs). These unhelpful thoughts are subtle, sneaky and can pop into our minds without any effort. As our thoughts, feelings and actions are all interconnected, when we start thinking negatively we start to feel bad- which then impacts our behaviour. Or we think negatively, which impacts how we feel - which then impacts our actions.
On the flip side, improving in one will also impact the others in a positive way.
-Gaining control of your thinking and recognising your "thought traps", will make you feel better and more motivated to take action.
-Taking positive action when you don''t really feel like it, will make you feel more positive, which leads to more positive self-talk.
-Watching funny films or videos or listening to upbeat music can change your mood, leading to more positive thoughts and feelings.
Have a look at the following list of Thought Traps to see if you can recognise any of your thinking patterns.
Positive thinking has a lot to answer for!
I'LL BE HAPPY WHEN …
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present:. -Jim Rohn
Have you noticed that the western world seems to have adopted a mass "I'll be happy when" mind-set?.
I’ll be happy when… I have lost weight, got a new job, new partner, new car, new business, new house. I'll be happy when…. I get that promotion, have paid of my debts, have more money, am married, divorced or had a baby. I thought like this for most of my adult life. I truly believed that I would be happier when I lost weight. That life would be absolutely perfect. That I would suddenly look in the mirror and be wonderfully happy with who I saw looking back at me. But after losing six and a half stones, that didn't happen. I still felt the same way about myself.
We are often so fixated on what we don't have in our lives that we miss the point. I know I did. I didn’t understand that true happiness lies within us, not outside of us. Yes, we can be happy about external events or situations, like a new relationship, a promotion or a fun, pleasurable experience but that kind of happiness is short lived, it fades as quickly as the memory of the event fades