January 06th, 2021

A Conversation About Resilience 

Hi, lovely. 

How are you today?

What have been your wins this week? Think of 3, if you can...

What hasn't gone so well? What lessons have you taken away from these experiences? 

Today, I wanted to talk about what RESILIENCE - both what is is and how to build it. 

Now, if you're like me, you weren't one of the lucky ones born with the 'resilience gene'. This means you had to work hard to build it up!

The truth is, I actually think that makes us lucky. To build resilience, you need to be able to grow in the face of adversity... Smile in the company of stress... Stand up when everything seems to be tumbling down...

I think there's a real sense of accomplishment which comes with building your resilience from scratch. What do you think?

Now, it's all well and good me saying, "oh, when you've got resilience, you'll be able to do all of these things..." but, how do we build it in the first place?

Here are a few of my top tips for building resilience: 

1. Daily reflection - When you're having your evening wee or when you're brushing your teeth, have a think about any hurdles you overcame that day. They might seem small, like not yelling at the person who cut in front of you on the roundabout, but they might also be bigger, like having the courage to be assertive with a colleague or friend. Smile and give yourself a pat on the back (but don't drop your tooth brush). Doing this daily will encourage you to focus on how resilient you already are.

2. Daily Journalling - Continuing on from tip 1, this is a great strategy for being able to look back on your wins. Again, the more time you spend thinking about the things you have done well, the more you will seek to do more of those things... This will in turn, of course, help to build your resilience. 

3. Escape Your Comfort Zone - No one ever built resilience by doing the same thing every day. Think about babies... If they never try talking or walking repeatedly, they would never learn! My advice? Do 3 things each week that are out of your comfort zone... This could be talking to someone new, trying a new route to work, or even a brand new activity or hobby!

Once you've given the tips a try for 30 days, I'd love to know how you got on! Feel free to contact me here.

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Take care,

Abby and the HappiMe Team x