A Conversation About Active Listening
How are you this week?
What have been your biggest wins? Come on, think of 3 if you can...
What hasn't gone so well? What lessons have you taken away from these experiences?
Shall we have a chat about active listening?
As humans, it’s so easy to want to fix a negative situation a loved-one might be in… After all, we don’t want to see someone we care about struggling, do we?
The truth is, learning how to listen actively can feel like a challenge. It’s in our nature to want to help others, so “just listening” when someone is in need can go against the grain - but how will they learn if we are always jumping to their aid?
To help you see how empowering listening can be for both you and the person in need, here’s a little story we are sharing on social media next week…
Jess is 15 and has been struggling with friendship issues in school. When she spoke to her Mum about it, her Mum jumped to her aid and gave her lots of advice, whilst also clearing up the house and preparing dinner… “Why don’t you pop them a message love?”, “we could go for a walk to take your mind off of things later?” … The truth is, Jess just wanted someone to vent at. She knew deep down that it wasn’t the end of the world, and that she wouldn’t feel this way forever, but she felt talking about it would help her to feel calmer…
Of course, in the scenario Jess was in, it was clear that her Mum was well-meaning and just wanted to help fix everything for her. In this case though, Jess wanted a soundboard to help her reflect and come to terms with everything herself. She wanted to feel empowered and independent!
What could Jess’s Mum have done differently?
What do you think? Could Jess's Mum tried to do any of those things?
What else can someone do to show they are active listening?
Well, they could...
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Abby and the HappiMe Team x