A Conversation About Resilience
How are you feeling this week?
What have been your biggest wins?
What hasn't gone so well? What lessons have you taken away from these experiences? Are you ready to let them go now?
This week, I wanted to have a little chat with you about how to build resilience in your children.
So, what is resilience?
According to Public Health England:
"Resilience is described as the capacity to ‘bounce back’ from adverse experiences, and succeed despite adversity.”
Those adverse experiences could be anything from falling out with friends to the loss of a family member (and anywhere in between).
Some children are “born resilient”, in that they are able to bounce back from adversity quickly and naturally, whilst others find it much harder. This can even vary from sibling to sibling.
Here are some of my top tips for raising resilient kids!
Start a Daily Positivity Practice…
At the end of each day, as your child to reflect on anything they did well, or “bounced back” from. Aim for 2-3 things, if they can. This helps to strengthen the neuro-pathway relating to resilience and self-love in their brains. The more they practice this, the strong the pathway, and the more resilient they will become.
The Positivity Jar…
At the start of each week, give your child 10 coins. Every time you notice them speak positively about themselves, ask them to add a coin to their Positivity Jar. Every time you notice them speak negatively about themselves, ask them to give you a coin and chat to them about why the comment wasn’t helpful.
At the end of the week, count up the coins and see if they can beat the number of coins in the jar the following week. If they get all 10 coins in the jar, you could offer them a prize!
Give them a go and let me know what you think.
Check out ParentKind's useful article on resilience here.
Oh, and here's a great children's book.
And... That's it from me for another week!
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Abby and the HappiMe Team x