Once your chimp has reacted, an inner-monologue ensues, where we often vent to ourselves or relive the event whilst thinking about the 101 things we could have done or said differently. This inner-monologue can only take place with the use of our tongues – as despite us not speaking aloud, the tongue twitches along with our thoughts – we are talking to ourselves after all!
Do you see where I am going with this?
By practising effective tongue-relaxing techniques, you can put a stop to the self-talk that may be keeping you in a state of stress or rage. Therefore, your body is able to release the stress and let go of the emotional build up much quicker.
A great strategy we use at HappiMe is imagining you have a sweet balancing on your tongue. Sense the sweetness – are you salivating yet? Of course you are! By focusing your attention on the imaginary sweet (or perhaps an olive if you don’t have a sweet-tooth!) your mind is able to refocus, whilst your tongue tenses. Once you have focused on this for 30-seconds, relax your tongue and take a deep breath.
I know that is the heat of anger, or when you are stressed, this may not be the first thing you think of doing, which is why I suggest you start practising 4-5 times (it takes less than 30-seconds) each day. This way, you will start to develop a habit, which will make you much more likely to call upon this strategy when you are next in a Fight or Flight state.