When the s*** hits the fan, your response is often the ONLY thing you have control over.
Let's face it... life is hard. And when life throws you a curveball, we have a choice. We can either sit around and throw a pity party about it or you step up and knock the damn thing the hell out of the park!...
How do we step out of fear and anxiety into love and joy?
Firstly, treat yourself with self-compassion. Instead of judging and criticising yourself, talk as if you were speaking to your best friend. Your best friend has your back, supports you, encourages you, consoles you, and celebrates with you...
The Difference between Emotions and Feelings
“Emotions play out in the theatre of the body. Feelings play out in the theatre of the mind.” –Dr. Sarah McKay, Neuroscientist
Although the two words are often used interchangeably, there are distinct differences between feelings and emotions. For starters, they originate in different parts of the brain.
Positive Thinking Versus Feeling More Optimistic
Positive thinking doesn’t work. In fact, it can be dangerous.
Now there's a controversial statement! Life coaches around the world will be scowling at me right now! But hear me out...
How To Choose A More Helpful Thought
Some if you may have heard of CBT, or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. Some of you may not have. I’m going to tell you what it is, some of the benefits, along with a really simple way to use CBT in your day-to-day life.
Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is a form of talking therapy that focuses on how your attitude, thoughts and beliefs can affect the way you feel and behave. CBT uses cognitive therapy and behaviour therapy, whilst teaching you coping mechanisms for dealing with your problems. Cognitive therapy examines what you think about, and behaviour therapy examines the things you do and the way you behave.
I'LL BE HAPPY WHEN …
“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present:. -Jim Rohn
Have you noticed that the western world seems to have adopted a mass "I'll be happy when" mind-set?.
I’ll be happy when… I have lost weight, got a new job, new partner, new car, new business, new house. I'll be happy when…. I get that promotion, have paid of my debts, have more money, am married, divorced or had a baby. I thought like this for most of my adult life. I truly believed that I would be happier when I lost weight. That life would be absolutely perfect. That I would suddenly look in the mirror and be wonderfully happy with who I saw looking back at me. But after losing six and a half stones, that didn't happen. I still felt the same way about myself.
We are often so fixated on what we don't have in our lives that we miss the point. I know I did. I didn’t understand that true happiness lies within us, not outside of us. Yes, we can be happy about external events or situations, like a new relationship, a promotion or a fun, pleasurable experience but that kind of happiness is short lived, it fades as quickly as the memory of the event fades