What can I say to help my children to believe in themselves?
You Are Strong…
This week, we are having a chat about how to help our children cope better through tough times.
In yesterday’s post, we shared some tips for how to approach this topic, so today we thought we might looking into LANGUAGE in a little more detail.
The language we use around our children is more powerful than we will ever know. You are your child’s world, so saying things like, “you never do your homework”, or, “you are always terrible at getting up on time” will create limiting beliefs that will not serve them (or you!).
Firstly, remove “never”, “always”, and “should” from the family dictionary! It’s amazing how many times we can use these words in one day, and the truth is… They only limit us!
Try using language like “yet” and “could” in their place and see how your family's beliefs transform.
Next, give your child the opportunity to find a solution by asking a question. They might reject this at first, but be subtle and consistent and they will learn eventually… For example, “how could you try to stay on top of your homework?”, or, “you were up late today, so what could we do tomorrow so you aren’t rushing?”
Oh, and you might've noticed the positive message in the picture... That's just a reminder that you are doing a great job!
If you have any questions, please just pop us a DM and we’d be happy to help.
For more tips, check out our next post!
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How else can HappiMe help you or your child? We offer targeted coaching programmes, which can be really useful for supporting you to develop more helpful thinking patterns. Find out more here.