A Conversation About Children's Mental HealthGood afternoon.
How are you this week? What have been your biggest wins? Trust me, you can think of at least 3… What hasn't gone so well? What lessons have you taken away from these experiences? So, it’s children’s mental health week. I know it goes without saying given that the HappiMe ethos is all about improving children’s mental health, but this awareness week couldn’t be more important. Why? As you can see, this is a growing problem… In fact, stats show that each year thousands more young people are diagnosed with mental health disorders, and that’s just the ones we know about. After a 2020’s events, I would imagine those numbers are going to soar higher than they ever have before, which is just so incredibly sad. As a young person, I really struggled with my mental health. Although we didn’t have a name for it at the time, I spent the majority of my teenage years with quite severe anxiety… I hid it well until it all came to a head in my early twenties – which was when I was finally ready to make a change. You see, whether you’re 12-years-old, or 45, keeping on top of your mental health is such a personal journey. This is why, when we started developing HappiMe coaching and therapy programmes, we did it with teaching clients how to take care of themselves at the core of every intervention. If you have tools and strategies to manage your mental and emotional health, imagine how much better life can be? As a not-for-profit, we think it’s important to ensure everyone is able to access good quality mental health support. This is why we send out a free resource pack to everyone who joins The HappiMe Club. But wait, what is The HappiMe Club? Well, it’s a place where all members get exclusive special offers, freebies and monthly tips and advice for supporting themselves and their families. Oh, and it’s completely free! Contact us to join The HappiMe Club today. I hope this blog helped you in some way. I aim to post every Tuesday, but don't worry - if you're following us on our socials, you will get a reminder there. Follow us Instagram. Like us on Facebook. Check us out on Twitter. If you aren't already, feel free to connect with me on LinkedIn too, for more on children's mental health. Take care, Abby and the HappiMe Team x
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A Conversation About Why Children Tell LiesHey.
How are you this week? What have been your biggest wins? Think of 3, if you can... What hasn't gone so well? What lessons have you taken away from these experiences? Let's have a chat about why children tell lies (or "fibs"). As a children’s therapist and coach, parents/carers frequently tell me that their child has been “fibbing” or telling lies, and they don’t know why, or what to do about it. This is a tough one for many families, so I wanted to share some resources and tips for talking to your children about lying. The first thing to remember is that most children learn how to tell “white lies” or “fibs” as young as 2/3 years old – so, you aren’t doing anything wrong! They might learn how to “bend the truth” in order to escape being told off, or learn to manipulate fellow pre-school friends in order to play with the toy they wish to play with. The truth is, the way you deal with the “fib” is far more important than how they learned to do it. In society, most of adults tell ‘innocent’ lies to those around them too. For example, have you ever eaten a meal at a restaurant that wasn’t up to scratch, but lied to waiting staff when they ask how your meal was? How about telling your boss you have almost finished a project that is due at 5pm, when you have barely started it? Sometimes, it may feel like lying is necessary, which children may pick up on… In this Psychology Today article, you will find some great conversation topics for children who have started to tell lies, or for those whose lies have grown into something bigger. I also thought it might be helpful to explore some of the reasons why children may tell lies or “fibs” in the first place. In my experience, these are some key reasons: - Low confidence – Children may exaggerate their skills or experience in something to “fit in” or to feel better about themselves. This is, of course, about the opinions of those around them more than whether what they’re saying is true or not. - Low self-worth – Children may tell friends they have more toys, electronics or friends than what they actually have. This is sometimes because they don’t feel “worthy” as they are. - Low self-esteem – Children sometimes lie to others in order to make people like or respect them to compensate for not liking themselves. This could be by saying they like to dance, when they don’t, or that they love a TV show that they actually find really boring. As you can probably see, these 3 reasons can intertwine. If you’d like some useful tips for building confidence, self-esteem and self-worth in your children, please feel free to contact me here. I hope this blog helped you in some way. I aim to post every Tuesday, but don't worry - if you're following us on our socials, you will get a reminder there. Follow us Instagram. Like us on Facebook. Check us out on Twitter. If you aren't already, feel free to connect with me on LinkedIn too, for more on children's mental health. Take care, Abby and the HappiMe Team x A Conversation About ResilienceHi, lovely.
How are you today? What have been your wins this week? Think of 3, if you can... What hasn't gone so well? What lessons have you taken away from these experiences? Today, I wanted to talk about what RESILIENCE - both what is is and how to build it. Now, if you're like me, you weren't one of the lucky ones born with the 'resilience gene'. This means you had to work hard to build it up! The truth is, I actually think that makes us lucky. To build resilience, you need to be able to grow in the face of adversity... Smile in the company of stress... Stand up when everything seems to be tumbling down... I think there's a real sense of accomplishment which comes with building your resilience from scratch. What do you think? Now, it's all well and good me saying, "oh, when you've got resilience, you'll be able to do all of these things..." but, how do we build it in the first place? Here are a few of my top tips for building resilience: 1. Daily reflection - When you're having your evening wee or when you're brushing your teeth, have a think about any hurdles you overcame that day. They might seem small, like not yelling at the person who cut in front of you on the roundabout, but they might also be bigger, like having the courage to be assertive with a colleague or friend. Smile and give yourself a pat on the back (but don't drop your tooth brush). Doing this daily will encourage you to focus on how resilient you already are. 2. Daily Journalling - Continuing on from tip 1, this is a great strategy for being able to look back on your wins. Again, the more time you spend thinking about the things you have done well, the more you will seek to do more of those things... This will in turn, of course, help to build your resilience. 3. Escape Your Comfort Zone - No one ever built resilience by doing the same thing every day. Think about babies... If they never try talking or walking repeatedly, they would never learn! My advice? Do 3 things each week that are out of your comfort zone... This could be talking to someone new, trying a new route to work, or even a brand new activity or hobby! Once you've given the tips a try for 30 days, I'd love to know how you got on! Feel free to contact me here. I hope you enjoyed today's blog. I aim to post every Tuesday, but don't worry - if you're following us on our socials, you will get a reminder there. Follow us Instagram. Like us on Facebook. Check us out on Twitter. If you aren't already, feel free to connect with me on LinkedIn too, for more on children's mental health. Take care, Abby and the HappiMe Team x Our First Coaching ConversationHello, you. How're things?
Welcome to HappiMe's latest blog, 'Conversations with Your Coach'. Since this is new to us all, I thought I would explain a little bit about what to expect. My name is Abby and I am the lead children's coach and therapist here at HappiMe, and each week I will be having an informal chat on this thread; offering support, coaching and mentoring to you and your family. You can expect discussions on mental health, goal setting, boosting confidence... And everything in between. We'll aim to post every Tuesday, but don't worry - if you're following us on our socials, you will get a reminder there. Follow us Instagram. Like us on Facebook. Check us out on Twitter. If you aren't already, feel free to connect with me on LinkedIn too, for more on children's mental health. Take care, Abby and the HappiMe Team x |
AuthorEach week, HappiMe's Lead Children's Coach, Abby, shares her advice on a new topic.
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